A Single Rose

In this hospital we get treated differently.  We get a rose sign on our door.  It means to be a little more compassionate when you enter our room our baby is not going to live.  I'm thankful for the kind nurses and doctors who have been so helpful throughout this journey.

But if you're like me, you never know what to say to someone who is going through a tragic experience in their life.  Now that I'm here I'll tell you what I would like to hear and hopefully help myself to remember so I can help others.

I don't need to hear your stories of how someone you knew was in a similar situation but had the baby and it lived a few years.  Every baby is a miracle and that may have been the miracle that family needed but I know that is not Mikey's miracle for us.

I don't need to hear about so and so who had a child that suffered from some illness and later passed away. We all die eventually.

You don't need to ask me how I'm doing.  As if I would be doing good at this time. If you're reading this you'll already know, this sucks.  I'll probably have good days and bad days and if I want to tell you details I'll offer them without you asking.

All I really need to hear is an "I'm sorry" and if you're sincere maybe a "we are praying for your family".  Don't just say nothing and act like nothing has happened.  Address it with compassion and move on.  I'm sure everyone is different and maybe some moms really need to talk about things but I'd rather express my emotions through written words.  I hope I don't come across as sounding mean.  I really appreciate the support that I've felt from most people so far.  I just know that sometimes when I see others go through a hard time I never know what to do or say.  I am very thankful for your concern and mostly for your prayers.  We will be stronger because of this.